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July 1, 2009

Harold and Maude

“Black comedies don’t come much blacker than this cult favorite from 1972, and they don’t come much funnier, either. It seemed that director Hal Ashby was the perfect choice to mine a mother lode of eccentricity from the original script by Colin Higgins, about the unlikely romance between a death-obsessed 19-year-old named Harold (Bud Cort) and a life-loving 79-year-old widow named Maude (Ruth Gordon). They meet at a funeral, and Maude finds something oddly appealing about Harold, urging him to “reach out” and grab life by the lapels as opposed to dwelling morbidly on mortality. Harold grows fond of the old gal–she’s a lot more fun than the girls his mother desperately matches him up with–and together they make Harold & Maude one of the sweetest and most unconventional love stories ever made. Much of the earlier humor arises from Harold’s outrageous suicide fantasies, played out as a kind of twisted parlor game to mortify his mother, who’s grown immune to her strange son’s antics. Gradually, however, the film’s clever humor shifts to a brighter outlook and finally arrives at a point where Harold is truly happy to be alive. Featuring soundtrack songs by Cat Stevens, this comedy certainly won’t appeal to all tastes (it was a box-office flop when first released), but if you’re on its quirky wavelength, it might just strike you as one of the funniest movies you’ve ever seen.”

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June 30, 2009

Rory O’Shea Was Here

The caption for the movie says it all. Rory O’Shea is living proof of the power of living life like you were dying – “like you mean it”.

Michael is a 24-year-old who has cerebral palsy and long-term resident of the Carrigmore Residential Home for the Disabled, run by the formidable Eileen. His life is transformed when the maverick Rory O’Shea moves in. Michael is stunned to discover that fast talking Rory, who can move only his right hand, can understand his almost unintelligible speech. Rory’s dynamic and rebellious nature soon sparks a flame in Michael, introducing him to a whole new world outside of Carrigmore.

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June 29, 2009

Money Coaching

George kinder has a set of three questions famous for their ability to focus you on what really matters about money.

Question Number 1

Imagine that you have enough money to take care of your needs, now and in the future. How would you live your life? Would you change anything?

Questions Number 2

Imagine that your doctors says you have only five to 10 years to live. You don’t feel sick, but you’ll never know when death will come. What will you do? Will you change your life? How?

Question Number 3

Now imagine that your doctor says you have only one day left to live. Ask yourself: What did I miss? What did I not get to be or do?

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June 25, 2009

New Road to Fitness and Wellbeing

I’ve been going through a lot of Changes in my life and it seems like *everyone* I talk to is, too!

And I do mean Changes with a big “C”, too!!

I know that weathering them for me has meant getting back to basics – not like they’re a good idea but really getting determined about practicing them – like journaling, meditating, and praying. That’s a beautiful thing and really helping me to plug back into a joyous experience of life.

One of the things that I also have helping to boost my spirits up and keep me on the straight and narrow is that I am also going though an extreme personal makeover courtesy of Dr. Jason Shapiro and Tribeca Med.

Soooo….

Next big step it up area for me is health and fitness. I’ve had some health issues that have seriously effected my energy levels and I’m just starting to get my groove back and IN the groove. It’s been a classic Catch 22; I know one of the reasons why I don’t have more energy is because I’ve gained weight and gotten a *lot* more sedentary, but I’ve been sick enough (just noticed the work “ick” in that word; not a coincidence, I guess) that anything else after doing the things that absolutely had to be done to keep my life from going down in flames was a “You’ve got to be kidding me!” thing.

One of the things that brought it to mind is that I’m sitting here at my friend Juan Esteban’s kitchen table on my laptop and we’re blogging together. He’s making his first post on his shiny new blog at http://www.juanesteban.com .

He’s an amazing guy, very powerful and incredibly generous with his time and talents so for one – you definitely want to add him to your posse, virtually or otherwise, but two – if you get a chance why don’t you stop in and show him some comment love? It’s good blogging karma and you might just find yourself with a cool new friend and maybe even a potential Joint Venture (JV) Partner. (smile)

Love, peace and all cool things from the 60′s, my friends,
Tracy

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May 23, 2009

Take The Clean Sweep Assessment

Please note:  the totally function in the assessment is currently not working – but we are working on that…

WHAT IS THE CLEAN SWEEP PROGRAM?

The Clean Sweep Program is a checklist of 100 items which, when completed, give one complete personal freedom. These 100 items are grouped in 4 areas of life with 25 in each group: Physical Environment, Well-Being, Money and Relationships. These 4 areas are the cornerstone for a strong and healthy life and the program helps a person to clean up, restore and polish virtually every aspect of his/her life. The program takes between 6 – 24 months to complete.

OBJECTIVE OF THE PROGRAM

The participant’s goal is to get a score of 100 out of 100. The objective of the program is for the participant to get complete about 100 possible incompletions in their life. Incompletions are those physical, emotional or mental items which are in some way not resolved in the current moment. Incompletions of any kind drain energy. That is, they require energy to live with, given it takes work to keep us whole when there is something in the space. To have full integrity (like a complete circle) is normal; the program gives one a way to get there in a natural way.

PROMISE OF THE PROGRAM

The Clean Sweep Program promises three things will happen as you increase your scores:

1. You will have more energy and vitality. There is nothing like a clean space, full communication and self-responsibility to give one more energy.

2. You will increase your scores just by being in the program. Once you go over the list of the 100 items, you’ll find yourself handling some of these without even trying. Others take more work, but you will complete your way toward the score of 100.

3. You will gain perspective on who you are, where you are and where you are going. When incompletions are handled, one can see what is and has been around them, including one’s self. You will see situations as they really are, you’ll discern what is going on with you and around you and you’ll react less and choose more in your daily life. This higher perspective is essential in the process of designing one’s life and it starts with the Clean Sweep Program.

INSTRUCTIONS

There are 3 steps to completing the Clean Sweep™ Program.

Step 1. Answer each question. If true, check the box. Be rigorous; be a hard grader. If the statement is sometimes or usually true please DO NOT check the box until the statement is virtually always true for you. (No “credit” until it is really true!) If the statement does not apply to you, check the box. If the statement will never be true for you, check the box. (You get “credit” for it because it does not apply or will never happen.) And, you may change any statement to fit your situation better.

Step 2. The number of True boxes for each of the 4 sections will be totaled automatically for you as you complete each of the 4 sections. Write down these totals on a separate sheet of paper and then add them up. You know where your baseline or starting point lies.

Step 3. Keep playing until all boxes are filled in. You can do it! This process may take 30 or 360 days, but you can achieve a Clean Sweep! Use your coach or a friend to assist you. And check back once a year for maintenance.

Okay, now you should be ready to begin the program!

PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT

My personal files, papers, and receipts are neatly filed away.
My car is in excellent condition. (Doesn’t need mechanical work, repairs, cleaning or replacing)
My home is clean and tidy. (Vacuumed, wardrobes and drawers organized, desks and tables clear, furniture in good repair; windows clean).
My appliances, machinery and equipment work well. (Fridge, toaster, lawn mower, water heater, hi-fi etc.).
My clothes are all ironed, clean and make me look good. (No creases, piles of washing, torn, out-of-date or ill-fitting clothes).
My plants and animals are healthy. (Fed, watered, getting light and love).
My bed/bedroom lets me have the best sleep possible. (Firm bed, light, air).
I live in a house/flat that I love.
I surround myself with beautiful things.
I live in the geographical location of my choice.
There is ample and healthy lighting around me.
I consistently have adequate time, space and freedom in my life.
Nothing in my environment harms me.
I am not tolerating anything about my home or work environment.
My work environment is productive and inspiring. (Synergistic, ample tools and resources; no undue pressure).
My computer works very well and fully supports my efforts.
My hair is the way I want it.
I back up my hard drive at least monthly.
I surround myself with music which makes my life more enjoyable.
My bed is made daily.
I don’t injure myself, fall or bump into things.
People feel comfortable in my home.
I drink at least 2 liters of water a day.
I have nothing around the house or in storage that I do not need.
I am consistently early or easily on time.
Your Physical Environment Total is : 

WELL-BEING

I rarely use caffeine. (Chocolate, coffee, colas, tea) less than 3 times per week, total.
I rarely eat sugar. (Less than 3 times per week).
I rarely watch television. (Less than 5 hours per week).
I rarely drink alcohol. (Less than 2 drinks per week)
My teeth and gums are healthy. (Have seen dentist in last 6 months).
My cholesterol is at a healthy level.
My blood pressure is at a healthy level.
I have had a complete physical examination within the past 3 years.
I do not smoke tobacco or other substances.
I do not use illegal drugs or misuse prescribed medications.
I have had a complete eye examination within the past two years. (Glaucoma check, vision test).
My weight is within my ideal range.
My nails are healthy and look good.
I don’t rush or use adrenaline to get the job done.
I have a rewarding life beyond my work or profession.
I have something to look forward to virtually every day.
I have no habits which are unacceptable to me.
I am aware of the physical or emotional problems or conditions I have, and I am now fully taking care of all of them.
I consistently have evenings, weekends and holidays off and take at least four weeks of holiday each year.
I have just the right amount of sleep.
I use well-made sunglasses.
I do not suffer.
I laugh out loud every day.
I walk or exercise at least three times per week.
I hear well.

Your Well-Being Total is :

MONEY


I currently save at least 10% of my income.


I pay my bills on time.

My income source/revenue base is stable and predictable.

I know how much I must have to be minimally financially independent and I have a plan to get there.

I have returned or made-good-on any money I borrowed.

I have written agreements and am current with payments to individuals or companies to whom I owe money.

I have 6 months’ living expenses in an easily accessible account.

I live on a weekly budget which allows me to save and not suffer.

All my tax returns have been filed and all my taxes have been paid.

I currently live well, within my means.

I have excellent personal insurance. (Life, accident, disability, medical etc.).

My assets (car, home, possessions, treasures) are well-insured.

I have a financial plan for the next year.

I have no legal clouds hanging over me.

My will is up-to-date and accurate.

Any parking tickets, alimony or child support are paid and current.

My investments do not keep me awake at night.

I know how much I am worth.

I am on a career / professional / business track which is or will soon be financially and personally rewarding.

My earnings are commensurate with the effort I put into my job.

I have no “loose ends” at work.

I am in relationship with people who can assist in my career/professional development.

I rarely miss work due to illness.

I am putting aside enough money each month to reach financial independence.

My earnings outpace inflation, consistently.


Your Money Total is : 

RELATIONSHIPS


I have told my parents, in the last 3 months, that I love them.

I get along well with my sibling(s).

I get along well with my co-workers/ clients.

I get along well with my manager/staff.

There is no one whom I would dread or feel uncomfortable “bumping into”. (In the street, at an airport or party).

I put people first and results second.

I have let go of the relationships which drag me down or damage me. (“Let go” means to end, walk away from, declare complete, no longer be attached to).

I have communicated or attempted to communicate with everyone whom I have hurt, injured or seriously upset, even if it wasn’t fully my fault.

I do not gossip or talk about others.

I have a circle of friends/family who love and appreciate me for who I am, more than just what I do for them.

I tell people how they can satisfy me.

I am fully caught up with letters and calls.

I always tell the truth, no matter what.

I receive enough love from people around me to feel good.

I have fully forgiven those people who have hurt/damaged me, intentional or not.

I am a person of his/her word; people can count on me.

I quickly correct miscommunications and misunderstandings when they do occur.

I live life on my terms, not by the rules or preferences of others.

I am complete with past loves or spouses.

I am aware of my wants and needs and get them taken care of.

I do not judge or criticize others.

I do not “take personally” the things that people say to me.

I have a best friend or soul-mate.

I make requests rather than complain.

I spend time with people who don’t try to change me.
Your Relationships Total is : 

SCORING:

Add your totals from the four sections. Initial scores for the first-time participant range, on average, between 30 – 70 points out of the 100 points possible. Most people who are “using” the program increase their scores between 2 and 6 points per month. Points are added more quickly at first, slowing down significantly after one has added 20 or so points. Major plateau areas are at 70-75, 85-90 and 95-100. Those last 5 or 10 are the ones which are most worth taking care of, given our egos are well entrenched among these incompletions. You want to take this program on with the intention of getting a 100.

IMPORTANT POINTS:

1. This program is part of establishing a Strong Personal Foundation. With this strong base, one can build a vibrant and attractive future. But it requires an investment.

2. This program is a back-door approach to personal growth, business success and happiness. Rather than chase goals or try to figure out one’s life purpose, better to get the stuff out of the way so you can get the perspective you need to make better decisions and attract what you really want.

3. One of the goals is to stop having problems, handle the incompletions you have currently and maintain a clean space, forever, so you can create as you were designed to. The Clean Sweep Program is the first step in that process.

This assessment was originally designed for Coach U and is licensed through CoachVille

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